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The other night, F came home from a faux campout with her
Girl Scout troop; she was too young for the actual sleep over part. (Well, actually, I misplaced the permission slip to let her sleep over; and I would've had to sleep over with her because she was too young. Mom: FAIL.)
F had loads of fun
and was anxiously telling me about it when she stopped mid-sentence, declaring with
a gasp,
“MOM! I’m talking in exclamation marks! That’s when you’re excited about something!”
“MOM! I’m talking in exclamation marks! That’s when you’re excited about something!”
ME, caught in the moment: “I LOVE exclamation marks!”
F: “MEEEE, TOO!!”
We shared a gigantic, squeezy bonding-over-grammar hug. I’m
nerd enough to admit I was extremely
proud and excited that my five year old had newly discovered her love for
punctuation. Part of me couldn’t help wonder if she’d end up loving semi-colons
as much as I do. I nearly shivered in
anticipation.
Uh. Yeah. I’m a nerd.
As I recounted the experience to my husband later that evening,
it dawned on me it wasn’t really any surprise F loves exclamation
marks.
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This isn’t easy for me.
I live in the middle, in the grey, and am very comfortable exploring
that. There aren’t lots of exclamation marks in my circle. Many pauses,
sometimes mid-sentence, taking you in another direction. (Must be why I love
the semi-colon. And parentheses and commas.)
F wants the beginning and the end. Give it to her like a
dagger: quick and sharp. She respects it. Understands that way of
communicating.
I’ve had to learn a lot because I’m not straight, quick, or sharp. But she needs that. It’s the world she lives in. Her world calls for extremities. For fast, confident declarations.
For exclamation marks.
I’ve had to learn a lot because I’m not straight, quick, or sharp. But she needs that. It’s the world she lives in. Her world calls for extremities. For fast, confident declarations.
For exclamation marks.
F. Scott Fitzgerald was not a man for exclamation marks. He
said,
I don’t think he and my daughter would've got on
much. There's no way he was a Scorpio.
“Cut out all these exclamation points. An exclamation point is like laughing at your own joke.”
As much as I respect Fitzgerald, as much as I live in the
world of vagueness and grey, as much as I squirm being direct and straight and
super expressive, I think he’s missing out.
I think I’m missing out, too.
What’s wrong with feeling something – your own joke even – with
such pleasure, such joy, that you laugh at it. That you feel it on a cellular level. My
daughter definitely laughs at her own jokes. Tears-streaming-down-her-face,
holding-her-side, belly laughs. Why
shouldn’t she?
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You have to give me a pen and paper (or a keyboard, or a piano, or maybe some paint) for me to be bold. To express so unabashedly whatever is steaming inside.
I understand that
part of her passion is because she’s a child; but I also know it’s
who she is. She was born this way. She hasn’t changed. I only
hopehopehope that we don’t stamp the magic out of her.
Of course F LOVES(!!!!) exclamation marks.
It is how she lives.
It is how she lives.
It sounds like your daughter will always love exclamation marks. What a beautiful energetic bundle of joy you have there living with you. I love her spirit and the no holding back. She is stardust! Love it. :)
ReplyDeleteThanks, Suzanne. I think she always will. I just hope she will keep embracing them as vividly and as wildly as she does now.
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The pictures are very fun, Becky! Love the way you expressed the differences between your daughter and you. I'm just betting that the punctuation marks and semi-colon will learn a bit from each other. Thanks for sharing!
ReplyDeleteHi Light Stepping Stones! I'm glad you enjoyed the photos. I think you're right: the exclamation mar and semi-colon will learn from each other. :)
DeleteThanks for stopping by + commenting. :)
Becky, this is such a fun post! You are a fantastic writer and your daughter is ADORABLE! I love the pictures, I love that she is an exclamation mark, and I LOVE how you understand her so perfectly. You are a wonderful mommy. <3
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Bonnie, thank you for the compliments. :) Especially the being a wonderful mommy part. :)
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:)... As much as I agree with you about Freya.. ... and her fire and passion.. And as much as you may love "middle earth".. and cozy hobbit houses.. I happen to know.. that your passion and fire often explodes... with hand waving.. passionate.. conversation.. and ahem.. dare I say it ??? Rants.. !!!
ReplyDeleteLove ya Beck.... but FULL self disclosure !!! LOL !!!
Dad...
lol You're talking about tantrums, dad. lol That's entirely different!
DeleteThank you! Love you, dad.
Becky, Becky, Becky!!!!
ReplyDeleteI knew I was going to love this post by the title and you did not disappoint. I love the way you observe her and see the the contrast between you, I love the description of your understanding of her understanding. I love it, PERIOD!
(AND did I mention that your photos are stellar...I'm mentioning it, they are!) Carry ON! June Maddox
Aww, June. You are so kind. Thank you for leaving comments here. I always look forward to reading them. :) I am glad you liked the post. And the photos, too! <3
DeleteI love it Becky... and your daughter.And your photos are fantastic as well! :)
ReplyDeleteThank you, Caroline! <3 I'm glad you liked the pictures. They're all cropped off funny like she's had part of a limb amputated, but oh well. lol She was all over the place, dancing + jumping around. lol
DeleteBeautiful! I am crying as I read this, I hopehopehope too that the magic stays in all our children. I am also the grey, my husband the black and white. I wonder what our boys will be? Thanks for great post.
ReplyDeleteAwww, V. That's so sweet that you cried! lol I really hope the magic stays with our kids, too. Hmm...maybe one of your boys will be grey and the other more black/white. I'm sure you'll already see it in them, though. F was born intense. There's not often middle ground for her. I think that was a sign. Sometimes I just watch her in wonder. Her brain can work in a logical, methodical way and she already challenges me in that department! Sometimes all I can do is shake my head. lol
Deleteoh what a lovely post Becky- and may your magic days together be long and full of punctuation love :)
ReplyDeleteThank you for your kind words, Josephine! :-)
DeleteOh, my heavens, your daughter is divine! I love exclamation marks, too! I love that simple sweet dress she is wearing and her fierce look of joy. I didn't know joy could look so fierce and strong!
ReplyDeleteThank you, Andrea! She's sure fiery and yes, I agree! She does have a fierce look of joy! She's just fierce full-stop! And strong! She amazes me. Honestly.
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I agree Becky, she is a star burst of exclamation points!!!! What an exquisite little person! :)
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DeleteAww, thank you!! <3
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