Sunday, December 30, 2012

Resolutions, Smesolutions!


I stopped making New Year's resolutions a long time ago. Like most people, mine never really stuck. Within a month or so, I'd end up feeling guilty, as though there was one more thing I didn't accomplish: another goal I didn't meet.

Recently, I heard about this phenomenon called "One Little Word." It began with Ali Edwards in 2007 when she thought there must be a better way to start the New Year, in focus, but without resolutions. At the same time, blogger Christine Kane was wondering the same thing.

This gave root to the idea of choosing a word representing all you hold dear, all your heart's wishes and its desires for the following year...a way to narrow down exactly what you want to give the world, what you want to feel.

Mixed media artist, Wendy Polin, blogs here about her incredible transformation in 2012 after choosing the word fearless.

You gain ownership over that word and let it guide you through the year as you move forward. It's the foundation for the choices you make, for how you live your life. Like a one-year manifesto tightly wrapped in one word.

Thankfully, there are those out there like me that can't choose only one word.  Some prefer the sound and feel of three words, as it resembles a mantra.

I don't usually follow rules super well, so I was happy to hear I wouldn't have to choose just one word, really: so I chose 2.5 words! (The words will be revealed on January 2nd!)

Have you ever tried picking just one or a few words to sum up your year? 

It was challenging for me to figure out how to come up with my words.Tammie Bennet Art + Surface Design was kind enough to share some of her wisdom with me. She wrote a list of things she wanted to feel for 2013; from there, she was able to start narrowing down words. So I did that. It was helpful, but no word appeared in my mind, really. LOTS of words did, though!

Then the amazing Galia Alena said that her process was to think about what lessons she might need to learn for the year, what she wants to attract into her life, and ponder that for awhile. Beautiful concept, right?  I tried to do that, too; but I got fidgety.  I felt I needed to keep writing down things to figure it out for myself, maybe do something...perhaps an exercise to help me. 

I learned about a vlog by Andrea Scher from SuperHero Journal where she gives little rituals and instructions on how to come up with a word to embody for the New Year. 

Andrea Scher's ritual included reflecting on 2012: the good, the brilliant, the not-so-good, and the ugly. Her vlog resonated with me, probably because there were exercises to do! (If you haven't noticed yet, I'm very process oriented.)  

I spent a long evening watching her videos, notebook in hand, writing lots of stuff down..sometimes hard stuff: the the hard things from 2012. The disappointments from 2012. But also good things: like what I'm proud of. It's like a 2012 cleanse: without doing that, I found I couldn't look at 2013. It helped.  After all, a lot happened in 2012!  Out with the old, in with the new, right?

Now that my 2.5 words have found their way to me, I will join-in with lots of other bloggers and non-bloggers and share what my focus will be for the year ahead.  Many people will be doing this in different ways. I'll be participating in a blog circle and a blog hop about it in early January. (Look out, world!)

Some people are taking courses that provide monthly prompts for them to reflect on their words. Some will do art journals. Others will create pieces of art.  You can even get custom-made jewelry with your word(s) on it. (Etsy's a good place to look or check-out local artisans in your area!)  I think I will do that! 

If this idea interests you, you can look-up these fab resources:

Here are a few other blog posts I really love about choosing your word:

Well, I don't know about you, but I'm starting to get a bit excited for 2013 now. Who knows where it will lead...but I am sure it will be a more holistic and compassionate way moving forward this year.









26 comments:

  1. I think this would work better for me too since I am infamous for making the same goals every year in addition to more of them. I tend to get them done one way (usually the newer ones) or another but the ones that keep cropping up are really the ones that I need to work on but hesitate at some level. I will try the one word technique. Thank you Becky

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    1. You're welcome! It will be a first for both of us, then!

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  2. YES! My word for 2013 is TRANSFORMATION. It's going to be a big year. :D

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    1. I believe it will be for you, Amy!!! YAY!!!

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  3. I have trouble choosing just one word too, so I sit and think about my previous year and what I found tricky and what worked for me, then I ask for the words I need to come out of my pen onto the page. I know it sounds a bit out there, but it works for me. This year I have a few words but the main one is "acceptance" followed closely by "gratitude" with a big dollop of "forgiveness" thrown in. I enjoyed lettering my words into my diary on gorgeous Cath Kidston stickers and writing a blog post about them to set the words in motion, and also posting them on instagram. I figure setting them free into the world helps me along... Em ♥

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    1. I don't think it sounds 'out there,' Em! I think it's a really nice idea...and it shows that you have a lot of courage and faith that you will 'just know.' Have you already blogged about it? Doing an art journal - especially with Cath Kidston stickers - sounds lovely! :-)

      Thank you for sharing with us!
      <3

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  4. Becky, I am SO inspired and excited for all the blessings 2013 will bring. Thank you much for your sweet mention. I'm very honored and glad you were inspired by what I shared. Your wonderful post has given me further insight and new inspiration. I'm definitely ready to unleash my new word on the world and can't wait to hear yours. Looking forward to our new adventures...

    xo

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    1. Thank you, Wendy! Your blog post about fearless was very inspirational to me. I felt a lot of joy reading it. It was interesting how all of a sudden, it was as if things just 'clicked' for you; I found that helpful...encouraging even, because I'm hopeful the same will happen with me! :-)

      Thank YOU for sharing!!!

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  5. I’ve just nominated you for a Very Inspiring Blogger award! Check it out on my link http://wendypoling.typepad.com/wendypoling/2012/12/my-very-inspiring-blogger-award.html. A well deserved congratulations!

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    1. Oh my gosh! Wow!! THANK YOU! I'm super honored!

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  6. My word is HONEST. Being honest with myself and others, living with integrity and authenticity. Saying no when it is right to do so, keeping my commitments to myself and others. Letting go of what I honestly don't need anymore, being honest about what I do need.

    Thanks for helping me find it.

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    1. Hi LLB -
      I am enjoying reading about the words people choose. It seems so transformational + HUGE, too! Like so much more of a big deal than making resolutions! Good luck with your word! It sounds exciting!

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  7. Thanks, Becky, for sharing so much inspiration and some of the nuts-and-bolts things you used to arrive at your word! Here's to a beautiful, bountiful, bold 2013!

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    1. Thank you, Laura! I hope that you have a wonderful, full, 2013 as well!

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  8. So happy to have helped ever so slightly on this journey for you (even if it did just make you fidgety ;) ).
    Looking forward to the unveiling of your word(s).
    HaPpY NeW YeAr
    Gxx

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    1. Hi Galia!
      You helped more than ever so slightly! It's good I got fidgety! It's all part of the process; I think I needed to feel that way so that it would spur me on to go deeper within myself. I usually have to write to do that. It's hard for me to process things just by thinking - because I know I process through writing. It also was helpful for me to see this about myself. I could learn to be more still and listen. It's hard for me to do that...and I always admire how others can. :-)

      Thank you so much for helping me in my process!

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  9. All I could do was smile as I read your post! :) I could truly relate to what you were saying. This is really the first year, that it is really a challenge to find a word! Not because so many are coming to me, it's the opposite, I'm was getting nothin' Lol! But, it's looks like the word, "commitment" keeps slapping me in the face, so it's my word, because "it" wants to be my word! I'm looking forward to hearing your word and see how our journey for 2013 will shape up with our "word" for the year! Happy New Year dear one! :)

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    1. Happy New Year's Eve Day, Indigene!!

      I wasn't getting anything for a long time, either. I knew I'd have to work at it. I also knew I'd have to have alone time - physical space from others - so I could process it all. I always have to do that.

      It's interesting how your word, commitment, is choosing you. I hope you blog about it because I'd love to hear how it keeps slapping you across the face! lol

      Won't this year be interesting with all of these words guiding people. I always knew they were powerful!

      Love,
      Becky

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  10. great post becky! can't wait to read your 2.5 words!

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    1. Thank you, Tammie! And thank you for your part in helping me come up with my words!

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  11. I love this post, and the way we all follow incredible journeys as we go through the process of meeting our word (s). I love the thought of being slapped in the face by a word! One of mine did a lot of slithering but happily was not too feisty ;)!!

    Thank you so much too for the "menshie". I am intrigued to know your words too, and I know they will be beautiful.

    I am very thankful to 2012 for introducing us!
    Hugs
    P
    xox

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    1. Thank you, P!! <3

      Of course - re: the mention! Can't wait to catch up again (soon!)

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  12. LOVE this idea... gonna do it! And, I hope you don't mind if I reference you in my blog fellow fly sister :)

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    1. Of course!!! Can't wait to hear what comes up for you! <3

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  13. Loved your post Becky. You shared great links to many wonderful treasures. I still haven't chosen my word(s) for 2013, hoping to have that become clear soon. Wishing you the most wonderful year in 2013!!
    xo

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    1. can't wait to hear about your words when they come to you, Suzanne! :) I'm glad you enjoyed the links, too. :)

      I wish all the very best for 2013 as well!

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